Reflections on humility
Workshop participants
Workshop participants

A support group to practice 16 Guidelines in Argentina
By Alejandra Almada

After completing the 16G Level 1 and Building on the Basics programmes in Argentina, six of us decided to start a period of introspection and deepening our understanding of the guidelines.

The idea is to take one guideline per month, reflecting on its meaning: from the concept itself, to the most profound lived meaning that we have experienced with it when trying to integrate it into our daily life. Our final proposition is to compile a series of exercises for each guideline that are relevant to the specific circumstances of our life (personally and professionally).

It has proven to be an extremely rich and rewarding process for each of us; we have met in person occasionally to share our experiences and we are now on our fourth month, working on ‘contentment’.

Below I share the thoughts of one of the participants regarding her experience working on the guideline of ‘humility’ during the first month.

“Hi dear all, how was your summer? I am writing to share with you some of what I have experienced during the last month working with and remembering HUMILITY.

If I understood correctly, the homework is to share a bit about the month that we were practising HUMILITY and share an exercise that could help to develop this attitude in ourselves as well as others.

Ok, so here it goes. It was a really big experience for me and it is difficult to put into words what I experienced doing a practice of listening. As simple as that; just to stop what I am doing and listen to others.

In doing this I realized that I am always in such a rush: a rush to speak, to ask, to interrupt, to reach conclusions, etc. that I miss out on the present moment. I miss opportunities to engage in a real relationship with the other, to feel and experience reality as it is, to allow it to be without molding it.

I am so grateful to have practiced this exercise and I am trying to be mindful of it every time I meet with someone, as well as with my daughter, who has been a great teacher, because I know if I don’t do it with her I won’t be able to do it with anyone.

For example, now when she wants to talk to me I kneel down to listen so we can be at the same height. And I feel this makes a difference, because she notices that I am paying full attention to her, because her mum stopped what she was doing to kneel down and be at a level with her and listen. I feel this helps her relax.

I also noticed a change in the way conversations flow when one pays full attention to actively listen to someone, and notice how they open up, what their heart expresses, and slowly all barriers and walls come down; it is wonderful!

Also for me to realize that what I had to say, what I thought was so important and urgent, could actually wait. Or what I really wanted was actually provided by listening to others. So I definitely think that the practice of active listening is conducive to developing humility.

That is all. I hope you are all very well and see you soon.”